Valentines Day is right around the corner. If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, how does this make you feel?
Valentines Day, the day set apart to celebrate the love relationship you have chosen to invest your precious time into, should be looked forward to with anticipation. Is this what you experience?
Or, do your thoughts go back to previous Valentines Days recalling a disappointment or let down after the day went by without your even being noticed? If this is your experience, do you want another Valentines Day in your life to go by having the same result?
You have the choice right now to make. You can look to the emotional abuser or narcissistic emotional abuser in your life to receive an expression of love or you can choose to give an expression of love to someone who you know will respond back to you in a way that will make you feel good.
Yes, you can give your expression of love to the emotional abuser in your life if you’re not expecting reciprocity. To avoid disappointment and let down with the narcissistic emotional abuser, do not expect anything back.
You know the emotional abuser’s patterns. You’ve experienced this so many times you’re unable to recall all the times you’ve been hurt and even if you could recall, you don’t want to think about it.
Your recognizing this reality is a good thing because now you are able to understand it is you that can change this entire pattern. You hold the key!
You can choose to give your expression of love to a dry well and that is great if you do not want anything back. However, if you want to experience some good feelings on this upcoming Valentines Day and make it the best Valentines Day in a very long time, why don’t you choose to give your expression of love to someone that you know will really appreciate your gesture?
How to Avoid Disappointment and Let Down on Valentines Day
Give your expression of love to someone who shows you appreciation
The person you know that will sincerely be delighted by your acknowledging and extending your love to them will assuredly respond with a bright smile and some type of gesture to show you that you are also important to them. Would this make you feel better than you’ve felt on previous Valentines Days?
Throughout the day if your mind goes the direction of how your supposed loved one with whom you are in an emotionally abusive relationship has not treated you special on this day, you can reflect back on the person who you chose to give your expression of love. You can feel good thinking about that person.
By your making this slight change in your choices, you will continue to understand and experience that you indeed hold the key to how your life unfolds. You can choose to invest your precious time with someone who shows you little or no consideration or you can choose to invest your precious time with someone that respects and appreciates your being in their life.
If you sincerely want to avoid disappointment and let down on this upcoming Valentines Day with the emotional abuser or narcissistic emotional abuser in your life, give your expression of love to someone you know will give back to you a smile and a thank you that will make you feel great. If the emotional abuser in your life for some reason bumps their head, changes, and miraculously extends an expression of love your direction, that will be a bonus for your Valentines Day.