While it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to explain the law of gravity; it does take a simple explanation to share with your child the consequences for their actions. My daughter has tried over and over, time after time to test the waters with bad behavioral actions. The best I can do is explain to her the consequences for her actions. While sometimes it seems as if what I tell her goes through one ear and out the other, I believe I’ve finally gotten through by letting her know that I’ve lived long enough and there’s really nothing she could do or think that would surprise me whether it’s good or bad. I’ve let her know there are consequences for bad behavior and a price to pay for her actions, and there are rewards to be gained across the board for her good behavior. I simply let her know she’s only hurting herself by her own actions with the things done that’s not acceptable, not only to me, but to mainly herself. Using corporal punishment is not always the solution to kids’ bad behavior. Each and every child is different to how they respond to the decisions you make when they choose to be defiant occasionally.
If you want to help your child overcome their bad behavior; have a face to face sit down conversation with them explaining the consequences for their actions. Hopefully sooner better than later they will begin to take heed to your words of wisdom and knowledge and begin to practice what you have preached and taught them. By talking to your child you will let them know they should pay close attention to what you are sharing with them so that there lives won’t be as complicated with good counsel verses not getting any kind of counsel at all. While it’s true we as parents do not have all the answers to life problems; we do or should have enough life experience to help our children. If you are a very young parent then seek the help of an elder of someone who’s much older than you or someone with good parenting skills to help you along the way as you grow into becoming a mature parent yourself. Keeping yourself in the right state of mind and practicing what you preach will be a perfect example of portraying good behavioral patterns and actions. Your children will mimic and model your actions whether they are good or whether they are bad. Which action do you want your child to mimic good or bad? If you’re honest with yourself you know you want your child to mimic your good behavioral actions.
Your child or children are an asset to you and not a liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If you are struggling with your parental rights and responsibilities sign-up to receive tips on life in general and I can help you with your parenting concerns.
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