Ruined orgasms are perhaps the worst thing that can happen to a man kept in strict chastity and orgasm denial.

First, let’s see what one is. A ruined orgasm is where you bring your lover right to the point of no return… and then you stop all stimulation so his orgasm proceeds but in isolation from any touch or other stimulation.

I know, it doesn’t sound too bad, does it?

I mean, an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm, right?

Wrong.

I know from the ruined orgasms I’ve given my husband, John, they are worse than no orgasm at all. Just let that sink in for a moment, because I realize it’s completely counterintuitive.

Why give your man a ruined orgasm?

Well, there are several reasons.

The first is as a kind of punishment. I’m not really into the dominatrix thing, but sometimes if you want to make a point, giving a ruined orgasm is a good way to do it.

I think it’s so powerful because at the moment he feels that point of no return being crossed he’s thinking, “oh God yes… I’m cumming, I’m cumming!“… but then you STOP before the first actual contraction he feels… and of course, he’s not really cumming at all after that, is he?

The second reason to do it is a utilitarian one: emptying his prostate without going to the bother of milking him internally or externally, and without giving him a full orgasm.

There’s no compelling medical evidence to suggest milking is definitely necessary for prostate health, but it doesn’t do any harm to empty it from time to time, and you don’t have to break the “no orgasm” rule to do it.

And a third reason is… just because you can. Believe it or not, a ruined orgasm leaves your man feeling even more frustrated than he was before. Strange but true. So, really, it’s just another tool in your “tease and denial” toolbox.

A great twist on this is if you’re into cuckolding. Tie your husband to a chair where he can watch you and your lover in action, and then, when you’ve had your fill of your hot lover and are dripping wet with his cum sit in your husband’s lap and let him enter you.

Barely rocking your hips, ask him how much he enjoyed seeing you making love with your lover, and ask him if he wants to cum in you as your lover has just done.

He’s bound to say yes… and just as he reaches that point… simply get off him and you and your lover can enjoy watching your husband squirm and moan with frustration as he suffers his ruined orgasm. The presence of your lover watching this makes it all the more torturous for your husband.

Warning: any time you plan to give your man a ruined orgasm, you MUST restrain his hands. If you don’t, then with the best will in the word, he won’t be able to stop himself from “finishing off“.

The effect really is that powerful.

As always, before you play this or any other sexy game, inform yourself so you both know what to expect.