“I want to reconnect with my wife!” That’s something you’ve been saying lately, isn’t it? You just haven’t felt as close to the woman you married as you once did. Perhaps life has gotten in the way or you two are just being pulled apart by familiarity and you’ve started taking one another for granted. Whatever the reason, something needs to change. If you don’t address the issue and you instead leave it to work out itself, it probably won’t. This is a situation that needs your immediate attention. You can definitely make your wife feel closer and more connected to you by showing her that you love and cherish her.

When a man is saying, “I want to reconnect with my wife,” he needs to think about what has changed between them in recent months or weeks. Sometimes the reason why a couple loses touch with one another emotionally is they struggle through a conflict without finding any resolution at all. If you two have gotten caught up in an argument that seems to be never ending now may be the time to swallow your pride and compromise. If you leave a conflict unchecked it can wear away at the foundation of the marriage until it begins to destroy it. You don’t want that to happen so consider what you can do to smooth things over right now.

You can also reconnect with your wife on an emotional level by dating her again. This often seems like a silly suggestion to men but it can radically improve a stale marriage. You adore your wife and since you two married you may have stopped taking the time to do small, generous things for her. Take her out for dinner at her favorite restaurant this week or bring her home a small bouquet of her favorite flowers. These may seem like insignificant gestures but in her heart they will mean the world to her. Any opportunity you have to put a smile on her face is an opportunity you should be taking.

Listening to her is crucial if you hope to reconnect with her. It’s easy to fall into the pattern of tuning your spouse out. But your wife can’t feel valued and appreciated unless she knows you truly are hearing what she shares with you. Give her the floor at times to just talk about what she’s feeling. Don’t interrupt and don’t be too quick to defend yourself. Instead, show her that listening to her matters more to you than anything else. She’ll feel immediately closer to you for it.